30+ questions to create friendships and maybe more

36 questions to fall in love is a study by psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron which took place at Stony Brook University, New York. The aim? Speeding up the creation of intimacy between two strangers.

We (neither me or Zsofi are psychologists) decided to complement that test by creating another set of questions, that from our point of view can create friendships and who knows, maybe more. If you still want to use the original 36 questions from the study you have them HERE.

Here is our set of questions:

1. What’s a small thing that makes you happy?

2. What or who have you given up on?

3. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?

4. What’s the one “what if” that keeps you awake at night?

5. Have you ever felt unconditional love? Tell your partner as much about it as you’re comfortable sharing.

6. If you had to be a force/phenomenon of nature what would you be and why?

7. If you walked into a room with everyone you’ve ever met, who would you go looking for first?

8. What makes you lose trust in someone?

9. What’s a memory you return to when you need comfort?

10. If you could have any one wish, come true, what would it be?

11. Which partner in your history had the biggest effect on you? (regarding chemistry/physically, not emotionally)

12. What emotion scares you the most?

13. What was the most impulsive thing you’ve ever done?

14. Which “first time” do you wish you could experience again?

15. What do you do when you’re nervous about something to calm down?

16. What is the craziest thing you’ve done for somebody you like?

17. If you could have one wish fulfilled about one thing in the next month, what would it be?

18. What would your personal hell look like?

19. What is your deepest desire?

20. What’s one habit you’d like to give up?

21. If you could acquire any one normal (real, existing) skill instantly, what would it be?

22. What is your biggest fear?

23. What superpower would you choose?

24. What one thing would you want to magically change in your looks or your personality?

25. If you could be the absolute ruler of the world, would you want to be? What would you do?

26. Which one would you rather choose and why?

A) You’re absolutely hopeless at reading people

B) You can hear people’s thoughts, but you have no control over it and cannot turn it off

27. What’s scarier: being alone or settling for the wrong person?

28. What personality traits are really hard for you to tolerate in a friend/partner?

29. What is your best trait in your opinion? Would your friends pick the same thing about you?

30. What is more important to you: excitement or stability?

31. What are your guilty pleasures?

32. Do you have any big goals in life? What are they?

33. When was the last time you felt truly happy and what were you doing?